Dear Elderly Aunt: My grandmother, who is in her late 80s, has been on me for weeks about us coming to visit her two states away. Now she’s really laying on the guilt, especially when it comes to seeing our kids, who are both under the age of four …
Hey Elderly Aunt, how do we break it to our families that we’re goin’ to the courthouse — not the chapel?
Dear Elderly Aunt, My long-time boyfriend and I have decided to get married! We had planned to do it eventually, but with the coronavirus and all, we decided there was no reason to delay. Especially since we didn’t care about having a big fancy wedding. Our only concern is about how to break the news to our families. While we would have wanted a city hall ceremony even in a non-crisis, how do we reassure them that this is the right decision for us?
Hey Elderly Aunt, how do I help my sister who might be quarantining with a verbally abusive girlfriend?
Dear Elderly Aunt, My sister has been living with her girlfriend for nearly a year. I went out with them in public a few times. That was back when we could all go out. They seemed to get along fine. But my sister, let’s call her “Jane,” has been making comments to me since the quarantine began that suggest her girlfriend can be verbally abusive. Maybe it’s just stress of being around each other 24-7. I’ve asked her point blank if she feels threatened and she emphatically said no. But I worry that Jane is in a damaging relationship and might not realize it. What should I do or can I do?
Dear Elderly Aunt,
What do you do when you have a friend you used to be *best* friends with, and you still love her dearly but you have literally nothing in common anymore and you don’t enjoy time the time you spend together anymore — but you also aren’t ready to give up that friendship because it meant so much to you?
Dear Elderly Aunt,
People always tell new parents “enjoy this time.” But this time — the changing life roles and the massive responsibility of raising humans and the juggling work and sleepiness nights and never being able to have an adult conversation or a minute to your own thoughts — is it OK to not enjoy it sometimes?
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